When things get heated, silence as a response, taking and giving space, and then burning off that Mars energy with some vigorous exercise (or even sex) are go-to's. When there is a lot of Mars energy around, or if two people living together have strong Mars energy, it can escalate quickly if not given a productive outlet. This energy requires some handling. When in doubt, sweat it out. Get out of the house, get some space, get some air, go run, go to kickboxing, channel it creatively, but don't sit on it.
Second, when we find it necessary to employ these tactics, we can take the opportunity to go deeper and do that reconnaissance work that is going to give us valuable intel for after Mars resumes direct motion on November 13th.
Anger is a secondary emotion - when we are feeling anger, that is our clue to look beneath it. We might express anger to cover up fear. We might feel fear because we don't feel safe expressing the emotion we are truly feeling. The more aware we are of this, the more empowered we are with this energy, and the less we will find ourselves manipulated or pushed around by it.
When working with boundary issues, here are four great questions to ask ourselves:
One Last Thought for Mars Retrograde
When I was staying on Lake Atitlan in Guatemala a few years ago, I heard a teacher say that energetically, protection invites attack. He was talking specifically about when we begin doing a lot of spiritual protection, but it is the same energy whether we are buying crystals or ammo, or we are just defensive and argumentative. If we find ourselves spending a lot of energy on protection, what that probably means is we are fearing attack. In this way these two things are engaged in an intertwined energetic dynamic.
I was listening to someone speak on energy recently and he brought up the idea of permission to use in place of protection in our energetic dealings with others and the world at large. He made the point that if someone is experiencing lack of love and abundance, it is many times at least in part due to them using the energy of protection rather than permission. He explained that protection shuts down energetic flow and actually invites attack, because it comes from a belief that it is likely we will be attacked and we are therefore not safe. Protection and defense tend to invite the very thing we are afraid of, because like attracts like.
Instead of protection, he suggested permission, and I believe this is a very valuable concept to put into practice during Mars retrograde. What he suggested was to shore up our own grounding and energetic boundaries, and then on top of that, layer the energetic boundary at the edge of our aura (about three feet out from our bodies in all directions) with the dictate that all of the space inside of this auric boundary is 100% our own space and on the other side of that boundary we give permission for everything to exist. My personal astrologer described it to me once as, "put your arms out - everything you can touch is what you have control over...period".
When we go into protection and defensiveness, energetically, we are actually engaging. Mars retrograde is about not engaging. But to be able to give permission, we first must have healthy and firm boundaries of self. If we are at all unclear on this, or maybe just practicing this for the first time now, we can go back to fall back, give space, take space, take time out. (Make time out self-care time or make it fun time - it just needs to be not communicating about things or around people that get heated easily.)
What we are doing essentially with Mars retrograde is bringing our focus in - way in.
Retrogrades are when the planets appear to stop and reverse direction for a while. The energetic effect is one of that planetary energy slowing in our lives and turning inward. This is a time of reflection and review of our relationship to this particular energy in our lives.
There is a lot of unrest right now, and most of it is beyond our control. We know what Mars retrograde means, and we know how to most successfully navigate it and harness its magic - falling back, pulling in, and doing the reconnaissance work.
In short, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
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