Gracefully Letting Go: 3 Ways to Reframe Release to Keep Your Vibe High.

Pluto squaring up to the moon's nodes as it transitions from Capricorn to Aquarius means one thing:  this is a year of major release for us.

This energetic dynamic began creeping in in early March, and stays in play through early December, but it's peaking from July 25th until August 5th (right with the powerful August 1st Aquarius full super moon) and will begin to fall off in alignment with Venus stationing direct in Leo September 3rd - the deep release of past Pluto is demanding of us now on a soul level in order to free up energy to create the "new" of our future is intrinsically interwoven with Venus' retrograde in Leo (July 22nd to September 3rd)- "a rebirth to self-worth."

Pluto last changed signs in 2008, and once it lands in Aquarius for good mid-January, it won't change signs again until 2044.  That's a big deal.  It means one era is ending and another is beginning, and that shift is spanning the better part of 2023.

The nodes are the north node and south node of the moon, the calculated points, or shadow nodes of the moon, that represent future, destiny, appetite, and increase, and past, fate, karma, and release, respectively (with the north node being the point of future and south node being the point of past).  

These nodes are what determine the signs of our eclipses.  They move backwards around the zodiac and change signs every eighteen months.

On July 18th, we have a vibe shift in store as the north node moves out of Taurus, where it's been since January 2022, and lands in Aries, sign of self, and the south node leaves Scorpio for Libra, sign of relationship.  

Things are changing, clearly.  

Pluto is the planet of power, yes, and "Lord of the Underworld."  But Pluto is ultimately a planet of regeneration - of the process of energy changing from one form to another.  It's all energy, and energy doesn't go away, it only changes form.

It's not so much "release," as it is "transmute," and you're the alchemist of your life.  You're the one with the power.

Pluto rules the cycle of destruction and creation, death and rebirth.  

Pluto in T-square to the nodes of future and past for nine months this year means we are being asked - no, required - to fully let go of the past to step into our future.  T-squares are growth aspects - they create tension through energetic impasse which forces us to do something different, to create something new.

Pluto is the planet that rules elimination and letting go.  When Pluto is involved, the harder we cling, the more uncomfortable - or even painful - things are going to get.  

Which is why I'm writing to you now.

With the summer astrological shifts in full swing, it's high time we went over this.

My Top 3 Tips for High Vibe Release

Before we get into the top 3 tips, let's get one thing straight - it's not about the "doing," it's about the BEING.  It's about the vibrational shift - your vibrational shift.  

I have many different tools that I teach my Creatrix Coaching clients - and they all work - but the thing that I notice time after time is that it doesn't matter how effective the tool we are using if we are stuck in the same energetic vibration.  

For example you can do somatics, or a special breathing technique to get your nervous system out of fight/flight, but if you do it mindlessly, too fast, and aren't consistent, it isn't going to be effective.  

The presence you bring to the things you do is the everything, and that's about the being, not the doing.  And I know that our everyday default way of being is one of the hardest things to shift, and it's also the number one thing we must shift to see real positive change in our lives.  It's my job as a coach to support clients in this transformative process.

So let's talk about 3 ways you can reframe release to keep your vibe high while letting go.

And just one more side-note - on release, healing, and forgiveness. I know we can get stuck on forgiving.  Yes, that's a wonderful, healing thing to strive towards, but for now, let's allow room for the truth that forgiveness may not be accessible for all of us in every situation right in this moment, and maybe that's not necessary.  Try thinking "neutralize," rather than "forgive."  Forgiveness will come when it comes, when it's time, when you've healed more, when you are ready.  For now, right now, try working with the idea of neutralizing the charge that a certain thought or memory brings up in you, or triggers, so that you can spend more time in that "okay" zone, because remember, you are always creating and you're doing it with your energetic vibration, which is determined by your thoughts and feelings.  So we want to stay in the sweet spot as much as possible!

1.  Instead of focusing on "cutting cords," do this:

Focus on your own inner flame, the eternal light that lives in your heart-space, and feeding that flame with love and watching it grow and expand until it fills your entire body, and then allowing it to overflow in all directions out into your energetic field and beyond.

The 2023 Retrogrades

Pluto retrograde in Capricorn is the "big daddy" here, as this is its final "clean-up round" of its transit of the sign that began in 2008.  Collectively think: Global Financial Crisis as well as stripping and exposing anything rotten that's ready for death and rebirth style regeneration as far as big societal systems like government and finance.  For you personally, check the house or area of life Capricorn rules in your chart and you'll get the idea. Read more about the 4 major astrological energies at play in 2023 here.

The thing to remember with Pluto is the stripping comes before the regeneration.  We have to let go to get to the new.  Your ability to let go gracefully is a major determining factor of how things go for you this summer and fall as we move through this.

We also have Saturn retrograde in Pisces June 18th to November 4th, and Neptune retrograde in Pisces June 30th to December 6th.  These two are supporting actors, helping us make the ideal real.  Don't panic of this kicked off (maybe as early as the spring eclipse portal) with a big reality check.  If we were headed off in the wrong direction, the first thing that has to happen is a course-correct.  Read more about Neptune retrograde here.

Uranus will be retrograde August 28th to January 27th, 2024, the transit that ushers us into the new year and Pluto returning to Aquarius, the sign of which Uranus is modern ruler.  It's going to be entirely new ballgame by February - count on it.  Expect a lot of those shifts to start coming through November, December, January, as these planets that have been retrograde station direct and resume forward motion one by one, culminating in Pluto's big move into Aquarius.  

The retrogrades are the mentorships - the support in reviewing and reworking - that are preparing us from now until then, and we have one extra special one that's bringing blessings - Venus retrograde in Leo July 22nd to September 3rd.  Venus retrograde in Leo is your "personal renaissance," an opportunity for a "rebirth to self-worth," if you take it, and that is a key piece of the foundation for moving forward into the new that's coming. Read more about Venus retrograde in Leo here.

Call your energy back into your body - from past memories, from future worries, from other people and conversations, and breathe it into your body until you are completely filled up and brimming over with your own unique energetic essence and you are completely embodied in the present moment.  Then go to work on growing your heart flame with love.  The thing is, we don't have to worry about unhealthy energetic attachments and boundaries when we are completely embodied and filled with our own light, occupying the thrones of our hearts.  We don't have to worry about defense or protection.  By doing this, it's easy energetically for others to know right where we stand and where our boundaries are, and it gives them permission to hold their own presence strongly too. 

This is a completely different vibration than trying to cut unhealthy cords with others and put up boundaries and defend against attack or invasion.  Just like our immune systems, a healthy system doesn't get invaded, attacked, or attached to.

​Come back home to your body and start occupying it fully and completely with your strong, beautiful, loving presence, and watch what magic transpires.

2.  Instead of focusing on releasing, do this:

Focus on what you are FOR.  Again, this is a subtle, yet very important energetic shift.  Energy flows where the attention goes, and when you're focused on releasing, your focused on attachment.  Remember that the magic of your attention and focus only works in one direction - the positive direction - you get more of what you focus on.  So it doesn't work to focus on release!  You'll just get more and stronger attachment.  The answer is to shift your focus away from what you want to release and to what you want more of in your life.

Focusing on what you are for might mean focusing on what you want instead of what you are releasing by focusing on its opposite. Maybe you are releasing an outdated way of getting your needs met, like compulsive people-pleasing.  Instead of focusing on not giving yourself up for others, every time you feel insecure and start to go there, gently bring focus back to you and your body and how you can meet your needs differently.  You are effectively refocusing your attention on the opposite of what you are releasing - from others' needs to your own, thereby creating a new more direct and empowered way of getting your needs met that doesn't require self-abandonment.

Or focusing on what you are for might look like refocusing yourself on the main want/need and cultivating its energy within instead of the vehicle you thought would take you there.  For example, maybe the Universe is asking you to release a certain job or relationship, which was the vehicle, and what you thought that job or relationship was going to get you was security.  In this case, shift your focus away from the job or relationship and move it to cultivating the feeling of security in your body and in your every day default feelings and being in the world, without that being attached to any certain thing. 

This is another masterful reframe to keep your vibe high while gracefully working with the themes of releasing and letting go in your life.

3.  Instead of asking yourself what you need to let go of right now, ask yourself this:

"What do I need to allow myself to feel right now?" 

This one is pure magic.  Remember, it's about the BEING, not the doing.  It's all about what you give your attention to, so instead of trying to stop the negative, we need to move towards the positive.  Instead of trying to cut things out, we focus on what we are filling up with instead. 

When we are over focused on "letting go," many times it is because we are so obsessed with getting rid of something that we are only feeding it and strengthening the attachment and charge.  This is because we are engaging it with it and feeing the energy even more.  This is not how we release!  This is not how we neutralize the charge of something in our lives.  This is not how we reclaim our power back from a person, situation, experience, or event.  

As I've been saying, the best way to release is to stop focusing on release and instead focus on what you're for, what you're cultivating in your life, and what you're moving toward.  It's good to bring conscious awareness to what you are releasing and moving away from, but that's really as far as it goes.  If there's grief work to do, if there's healing that needs to take place as part of this process, yes, zoom in on that and do it, but do it from a place of whole-ing yourself and from a place of allowance and acceptance for all of you, rather than from a place of trying to cut off, suppress, or outrun things.  

A great way to do this is when any kind of discomfort arises for you in your body, when you start to feel agitated or irritated or anxious or sad, or maybe even when you notice yourself wanting to distract, like with a snack or scrolling, to pause and simply ask, "what do I need to allow myself to feel right now," and then  do it - allow the feelings and allow yourself to tune in even more deeply to your inner truth to understand what those feelings are really about, one layer beneath that, and then one layer beneath that.

Funny thing - when we start allowing our feelings, they start to become not so big and scary anymore, and it starts to come up less often too.  And after a while, we realize that there's nothing to "release" anymore. 

That's pure magic - that's alchemy.  And you are the alchemist of your life, a powerful creatrix.

Kasey Ford, Author

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