Does "flow" in life feel elusive to you?
You know, that sense of ease and alignment, when everything in your life just seems to align effortlessly and unfold perfectly for you? Like when you just feel so confident and full of trust, that you can really let go of worry and truly enjoy life in each moment - because it's flowing - and you can feel it.
One reason I share astrology and use astrology as a coaching tool with my clients is flow. Bringing awareness to the energetic currents at play in general and for us personally in our lives is a great way to start to tune in and work with them, and even harness their power.
But I'm keen to point out that studying astrology is still very much a mental process - something that involves the brain figuring things out - and many times, mental processes are exactly what is blocking our flow.
One of the most important things I teach clients is embodiment. Many of us have learned how not to be in our bodies in order to avoid uncomfortable or overwhelming feelings we don't know how to deal with, or as a safety mechanism.
The thing is, we cannot be in flow if we cannot be in our bodies, because if we are not in our bodies, we cannot receive the messages our bodies - the instruments that carry messages from source and inner guidance - are sending us. This means we are cut off from our own guidance system, which only creates more fear and disconnection, creating a vicious cycle of feeling confused, lost, abandoned, and unsupported, which in turn leaves us feeling anxious, depressed, worried, fearful, helpless, and disempowered.
Back to astrology....
Most people associate the planet Venus in astrology simply with love and money, but Venus is so much more than that.
When we want to create more flow, we want to work with Venus.
In fact, much of the work I do with clients is what I call "the Venus work," because it is so needed in today's society, and it's such a monumental game-changer.
Venus is flow. Yes, Venus, as ruler of Libra and Taurus, does rule love and money, relationships and resources, respectively, but the question to be asking is this: how do we work with Venus energy to access this love and money in our lives?
The answer is this: Venus rules the divine feminine and law of attraction - Venus is about how we energetically align with what we value and desire and magnetize it into our lives - that includes to what extent we are able to receive and hold those desires too.
And "the how" of Venus lies in just one thing: our value of ourselves. Because our self-value is the thing that determines the quality and quantity of the love and money that we attract into our lives, receive, and hold.
When we find ourselves wanting more flow, what we are experiencing is resistance (the opposite of flow).
We know we are in resistance when we find ourselves feeling stuck, trapped, disempowered, ineffective to change circumstances, like we cannot get what we want and need, helpless, unworthy, unlovable, not enough....
When we are in resistance, we are in conflict with ourselves - we are in what I call a "double bind." This happens when what we consciously want is in conflict with an opposing idea or belief within, typically beneath the surface of consciousness.
This might look like, for example, wanting to feel more love from our partner and increase intimacy, but deep down, we are actually afraid of being vulnerable and getting hurt, so our subconscious expertly keeps it from happening - but on the surface it seems like it's the other person or circumstances that are the issue.
Or maybe we desire more money and abundance, but as soon as money comes in, the car breaks down and all the extra money ends up going right back out. And the pattern keeps repeating, over and over, just with different fires to put out, but with the same results - the extra money keeps going away. There is an internal conflict within you between your conscious desire for more money, and something below conscious awareness that says somehow it's simply not safe to have more money - more life force energy, more resources, more power.
Make no mistake, when it comes to your nervous system's sense of safety and the unconscious limiting beliefs driving that, the subconscious will always win out over our conscious desires and efforts.
To restore flow, we're going to have to let go.
That means being brave. But more than that, it means learning to be in the world in an entirely new way - a way where you value yourself, and are a safe space for yourself, and broadcast that new vibration and energetic frequency.
This is the Venus work. It comes when you begin to focus on allowance and acceptance of yourself and your feelings - when you begin to respect yourself - because when you do this, you begin to create a safe space for you to stay in your body.
This is what gets you into what I call the "upward spiral," or "positive reinforcement loop."
Venus says "as within, so without." It's the law of attraction - "like attracts like."
When you truly shift the energy in your inner realm, your outer experience of life must shift to match. It's an energetic law.
The problem is, most of us think we are shifting our energy and valuing ourselves when we simply are not. Energetically, we aren't doing anything differently. Nothing in our inner realms has changed, and we can see that clearly because nothing in our outer experience changes either.
To truly shift when we are in resistance and feeling stuck and blocked, we are inevitably going to have to find a way to let go of something we don't feel like we can let go of, whether it's an old way of getting our needs met, an old identity, a belief about ourself, a truth we don't want to face, an attachment to the past or to future potential, a relationship, a person, or a dream. And that means we're probably going to have to grieve that loss.
But that willingness to let go is the moment that allows the magic in, because it's the moment you set yourself free from that torturous double bind and return to flow.
Just recently, I experienced this myself.
A really big unwanted came up in my life recently. And at first, I was in major resistance - almost to the point of shut down. It brought up old trauma and my first response was the same old, "no, no, no....this cannot be happening; this cannot happen....." My body wanted to collapse in on itself, to fall into "freeze" again (the third sympathetic nervous system response when "fight" and "flight" are unavailable).
I panicked. Body frozen, mind racing. I felt helpless. I cried.
But then, after a couple of days, something within me shifted.
I was able to accept what was now in front of me, and from that place caught a glimmer of a direction, an idea of how to move forward. I tuned into my body and my heart, and then went all in.
As soon as I did, the pathway started opening up in front of me. It was clear that this was my way forward. Things were lining up so easily.
As I moved through the real-world steps I now had to take that involved packing my things up from my lover's house to drive cross-country with no return date, the grief began showing up, bubbling up from deep within.
This is where I had to be brave and show up for myself with more self-love than ever before. This is where I had to not collapse, not dissociate, not abandon myself, and be in full allowance and acceptance - doing the Venus work in every moment, with every breath, with every surge of bone-crushing grief, which after a few weeks, began to subside, to be replaced by new life-force energy, right in alignment with the astrological transits - in divine right timing.
Follow your heart and the signs align.
The astrology is a valuable guide, but your heart is the key.
Follow your heart and the signs align. Your heart is what holds the key to your flow. Remember that the mind is a tool in service to the heart. The heart is the connection to your inner guidance, your higher guidance, your soul. Your heart is the part of you that knows the way, and the only way you can access it is by being embodied in the present moment and connected to yourself in allowance and acceptance. This is what opens you to receive the signal and the information.
When you step into flow by following your heart, the signs will align.
The synchronicity, the signs that you are on the right path - they will show up if you are embodied, heart-centered, and present in the moment. They will show up if you are tuning in to the flow rather than forcing an agenda.
Many times my signs come through animals.
Recently, I've been seeing pairs of bunnies - they happen to be prolific in the neighborhood I'm in right now. Rabbits are of course associated with spring and fertility, but also with night and the moon - intuition - and even prosperity. They are reminders to trust instincts, and harbingers of new beginnings. But seeing two playing and jumping over each other more than once? Well, that must be a sign that it's time to embrace a more playful attitude in life, right?
However, the other morning, it wasn't just the playing bunnies I saw. There was a bullfrog, hummingbirds, and nesting martins as well, all right there in front of me at the same time.
The bullfrog says projects are assured success, but you must keep moving forward (that particular phrase has been a recurring theme of the past few weeks too). Furthermore, bullfrog is about a breakthrough and healing, specifically around generational/ancestral trauma, reclaiming personal power, and inner authority, self-assertion, and being heard.
Hummingbirds are also a good omen, symbolizing drinking in the sweetness of life, being joyful & playful in the present moment, and even going on journeys and traveling great distances.
Martins show up when we are about to "take flight" on a project or dream, and symbolize abundance.
Following your heart is the key to flow.
The signs wouldn't be showing up if I hadn't been able to step out of resistance, into flow, and follow my heart.
If I hadn't been brave and courageous, if I had not been able to come back into my body and find acceptance so that I could get that glimpse of a way forward, I would've stayed stuck in that double bind, in that painful place of "no, no, no....."
There truly was flow and life on the other side of that, but in that initial, painful, unwanted moment, I could not see it, sense it, or feel it. There was only black. But that was just a step on the journey, not the end, not the destination.
Remember that you are a powerful creator, and you create from your energetic vibration - your emotions - which are generated by your default thinking habits, which are generated by your beliefs.
It's all energy. As within, so without.
Start creating the allowance and acceptance within, and you're going to start untangling the double binds that have you been keeping you tied up, and moving into more self-respect, more embodiment, and more flow, which in turn is going to be coming from a place of more self-value, meaning your going to be able to attract, receive, and hold even more good.
And that's the kind of flow we're all after in life, right?
And it's about doing the healing, belief, and shadow work to clear the fear and blocks that have been holding you back in a safe and supported container.
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