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I'm Okay.  Leaving the Pain of Attachment and Expectation Behind

2/28/2017

 
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What are the foundations, the spoken or unspoken agreements, your relationships are based on?  Can you identify them?  Do you know?  
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Can you take stock over your life, or the past few years and see any patterns around your relationships? (This could be significant other or work or really any repetitive way you find yourself interacting with others, or any recurring them around the people/situations in your life.)

The past few years have been challenging for many, if not completely disastrous, and at the very least probably eye-opening.  Basically anything that was based on looking outside of oneself for safety, security, rescue, or validation would have been challenged between 2012 and now.  With the Titanic on its way down, and everyone on their way into the water, it would have then become painfully apparent that no one would be "rescued".  With everything that once seemed safe and solid sinking out of sight right before our eyes, there was no choice but surrender, and for each person to find his or her own truth and own inner stability.  Grasping desperately for any illusion of security outside of ourselves in this rapidly shifting reality would prove futile.
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The lesson was to find that sense of security and safety within - to find our own center, and hold it, no matter what.  The lesson was to drop our inner anchor deep down within ourselves so that we are always standing in the eye of the storm and not allowing it to toss us about.  We cannot control anything outside of ourselves, so basing our love or happiness or sense of security on things that are external is to set ourselves up for disappointment and suffering.

The lesson was that "other" was never meant to "save" us.  Whether we want to call them twin flame or s
oul mate or karmic contract or angel or asshole, "other" is always a mirror, and whether working as an example or directly affecting us in the positive or negative, other is always just a mirror for us to look deeper within, and to anchor more firmly within ourselves.

When we are operating from our own center, and our own integrity along with the sense of self-worth and security and trust that is born of that, then we know we are okay.  When we are okay, then suddenly, magically, everyone and everything around us becomes okay.  When we are okay and everyone around us is okay, then we don't feel the need to expend energy on trying to change everything around us in order to MAKE it okay (an act of trying to control our environment to get a sense of security because we don't feel okay).

And when this all falls into place, something beautiful happens.  Everyone is now free to just be themselves, and have that be okay, because everyone IS okay.

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