Silencing the Treasonous Inner Critic
In the initial trauma, we made a decision about ourselves, like "I'm not important". With the "I'm not important" belief (or any of the core negative beliefs) comes shame, the feeling of being inherently defective or inadequate. Believing we are inherently inadequate spurs our fear of abandonment. The emotional need for human connection is real - its hardwired. Fearing abandonment, we desperately want to not be defective and be "important", but we are now looking to the outside world and our interactions with others and our experiences to prove to us that we are indeed important and are safe from abandonment. The instant we believe that what we need is outside of ourselves then we have abandoned ourselves.
The 5 Ways We Accept an Idea as a Belief:
In our attempt at avoidance of our greatest fear, we keep creating that same dynamic and pain in our lives, because of the belief we are carrying. We perpetuate our own pain. We contradict ourselves. The energy of what we hold within, this belief that is attached to our fear, is the opposite of what we desire, yet the belief will always be stronger. The belief always wins.
Just like in the story above, we must discover the traitor within and see the inner critic for what it is. It's giving a voice to our fears. It's speaking from the wound, and the false belief that accompanies it.
Listen to your words and listen to that voice. Notice how you are feeling and have the royal guards do a little tracking. When you hear the critical, judgmental words, barely disguised as logic and practicality, listen to hear the negative beliefs in them. And know they are not true.
Straighten your back, straighten your crown and accept your place as sovereign ruler of yourself. You will never be abandoned because you have come back to yourself. Your self-love and self-esteem are the only protection you need. By being your own authority and being responsible for yourself, by occupying your throne, you stay in your power, and so can never be unseated by falsehoods borne out of fear. You can never be abandoned if you don't abandon yourself.
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